When I originally planned out this post, as part of my Blogmas series, it was meant to be a summary of my key points to have a perfect Christmas day. It was supposed to be a little tongue in cheek (who am I to say what makes a perfect Christmas?) but it was going to be fun, filled with good food, family and laughter.
I didn’t quite make it through Blogmas. We got to day 16, eventually. Sadly, when I tried to fill my life with so many things to write about, I didn’t actually leave time to write about them. Still, 16 post in 24 days – I don’t think that’s too bad. Some of them I’m even proud of. Some are just filler. I did enjoy the challenge, though!
It did give me a lot to think about. There were many times, when I missed a day’s blog, when I got behind that I wanted to give up. Throw up my hands and shout “I quit” Once I’d missed one there really didn’t seem much point in continuing.
That pretty much sums up my attitude to Christmas. Well, to life really. I’m a perfectionist. A really unfortunate perfectionist who strives to be perfect and is never anywhere close. If I’m working on a project and something goes awry, I want to throw in the towel. Everything’s ruined – I don’t see the point in continuing.
Christmas is a particularly difficult time for dealing with this kind of mindset. An awful lot of time, planning, preparation and effort goes into one day and if everything doesn’t go exactly to plan you have to wait A WHOLE YEAR to have a do-over.
There have been a lot of things that haven’t gone quite to plan this year. We’ve been to 2 different National Trust properties and both were shut!! I haven’t done any holiday baking, no Yule Log, no Gingerbread House, not even a mince pie! And the panto. Oh god, the panto!
In case you missed my fury-filled tweets, I booked tickets for myself, my husband, kids and my parents to go to the Peter Pan pantomime at Mansfield Palace theatre. I’ve it in my diary for Thursday 22nd December. For some reason, on Wednesday 21st December I decided to check my email and realised I’d got the dates wrong. My tickets were for Tuesday 20th December and we’d missed it. Bugger (that’s a slightly toned-down version of what I actually said, but hey – my Nanna reads this!)
There have been more than a few times this week when I have wanted to throw my toys out of the pram and cancel Christmas. Say “this one is broken, let’s try again next year.” I can do Christmas better than this. I can be more organised.
The truth is, I don’t need a do-over. A perfect Christmas isn’t defined by the things you did, the presents you wrapped, the places you went. Heck, the very concept of a “perfect Christmas” is probably flawed in itself. I know I spend far too much time planning and prepping and worrying about all of the things I haven’t done.
So, I’m not going to beat myself up that I didn’t quite finish Blogmas. Instead, I shall be happy with the posts I have done. I also still have a few Christmassy-actitivities to share with you, which I will do in the next could of weeks.
Tomorrow I’m going to focus on what I do have. A loving family to share the day with, some gifts to swap that I think everyone will be very pleased with and some good times eating delicious food and watching Christmas telly.
I am not going to dwell on the things I haven’t done. They are not important. If I get time, I’ll try next year but nobody’s grading my on competitions and at the end of the day the girls won’t remember if they had homemade stuffing at Christmas. They will remember if we have a nice day.
So, from my family to yours we wish you a very Merry Christmas, however imperfect it may be. Spend it doing exactly what you want to do, wherever you want to be, with whoever you want to be with. Don’t wait until next year for the perfect Christmas. Make the most of every moment.
Merry Christmas everybody. Thanks for reading all my ramblings. I’ll be back in a few days after I’ve recovered from my food coma!