How to fail miserably at self-care

Last Friday I spent the whole day struggling with a blinding headache and terrible nausea.  I battled through most of the day (including an unplanned fire drill at work) but eventually had to leave 15 minutes early.  Once home, I collapsed into bed and slept for 3 solid hours.  I’d like to tell you that I had been struck down by some mysterious illness, but in reality it was probably just the perfect blend of sleep deprivation and dehydration.

There was one positive thing that comes out of my suffering though.  As I was laying in bed, head pounding and stomach churning, I came up with an idea for a blog post.  I could regale you with the particulars of personal well-being. Obviously, it would be wildly hypocritical of me to try and give you advice on how to look after yourself.  However, I am more than qualified to write about “How to fail miserably at self-care!”


Step 1 – Drink as little as possible

Heck, go for broke and drink nothing if you can get away with it.  I have been know to reach my evening meal having only had one cup of coffee (and the caffeine just adds to the problems). Sure, your skin may shrivel up like a prune and you mouth may be semi-permanently dry, but hey – that’s what night cream and throat sweets are for (not that I use either).

Step 2 – Ignore all nutritional advice

Seriously, who needs vegetables anyway?  I find living off bread, cheese and chocolate has worked perfectly well for me so far so I see no real reason to change.  Remember, Haribo are a major food group and of course, Mr Kipling apple pies totally count towards one of your five-a-day.

Step 3 – Deprive yourself of sleep

Sure, 8 hours may be the recommended amount of sleep for a healthy human.  I myself like to try and survive on about 6, or if I’m feeling really adventurous, about 3.  The trick is to stay up as late as you possibly can watching Gilmore Girl or Reign marathons, knowing full well you have to be up at 6am in the morning .  For extra points, completely ignore your alarm so you can wake up and frantically dress and apply makeup in 10 minutes before having to leave the house.  That’s living, folks.

Step 4 – Stay busy.  Stay stressed

Consider this one a bit of a competition.  How much can you possibly take on before you crack?  Ideally, you need to find a high-pressure job, work as much overtime as they’ll allow before the caretaker throws you out, have 2 or 3 hobbies (a blog, perhaps?) and maybe sit on a committee.  Or chair a committee?  Obviously having children will add that little extra element of stress, but there are alternatives if you haven’t had your own little bundles of joy.  You can baby-sit a friend’s children or, for the ultimate stressed out feeling, become a teacher and look after 30 of the little darlings!

Step 5 – Have a staring competition with a screen.

For maximum impact you’re going to want to find a job working with computers.  Then, when you do get home, spend the evening glued to your laptop, tv or tablet – pick your own poison. Don’t forget those handy little mobile phones for those odd moments when you just can’t get near a screen – when you’re on the toilet, for instance.  Oh, and if you do need prescription glasses when looking at screens ABSOLUTELY don’t wear them.  You wouldn’t want to run the risk of reducing the amount of eyestrain you can achieve, would you?

Step 6 – Never EVER accept help or assistance.

The most important lesson you will ever learn is that accepting help is a sign of weakness and must be avoided at all costs.  There’s no honour in taking pills or potions that reduce headaches or allergies and besides, taking pills usually includes water (see step 1). People may offer to help you with your growing to-do list, but secretly they’re just trying to prove you’re incapable.  And they’d probably only get it wrong anyway.  Better to do it yourself and slowly drive yourself crazy.

If you follow all these steps, I can guarantee that you will start to feel positively dreadful in a matter of days.  Maybe less.  If, on the other hand, you want to be a healthy, happy individual, may I suggest you do the exact opposite of all of these.

Learn from my mistakes.

I probably won’t.

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  1. Charlotte says:

    You know this post could have been written by me! I had been really not looking fter myself lately, not eating proper meals and whatever, doing far too many hours at work and yet wondering why my IBS and Dermatitis had been playing up. After being admitted to hospital last week and having surgery I have been having a tough week trying to get my head around the fact that I need to take care of myself a bit more!!

    Hope you look after yourself, and I am going to try and do the same!!

    • Stacey says:

      Aww bless you. You sound like you’ve been having a really rough time! Hope you’re feeling better soon. I think we’re all guilty of living such fast lives. It’s no wonder we start to feel run down. It’s important to remember to take time for yourself. Now, if only I could take my own advice I’d be grand! Thanks for commenting!

  2. Lora says:

    This did make me laugh but self care is SO important – although I definitely need to practise what I preach and improve my lifestyle a bit too!

    Make sure you make time for yourself

    • Stacey says:

      It was a little tongue in cheek, but it was also far too true. My hubby is always shouting at me for not drinking enough. I’d love to know how great I’d feel if I actually looked after myself!

  3. Entirely Sarah says:

    Haha! Love the post! I can relate to a few too many of these, and know I need to manage my time, my sleep schedule and well lets not even talk about dehydration, in basically a cactus some days with how little I remember to drink! Hope your feeling better, and atleast writing them down made a light hearted feel to them and maybe subconciously it will help to remind you to get a little more sleep or to drink more, I bought a new sports bottle and have it on my desk at work I ty to drink so much of it before I go home jst to keep my water intake up!

  4. Jessie says:

    I am with you on the chocolate and cheese diet there!! Usually I’m good at this self care and self love stuff but lately I just can’t get back into the swing of things
    Especially when you’re busy, everything just goes all the way down hill!!

  5. ellen best says:

    I wish the husband would moan at me for not drinking enough. I like your humour but jokes aside we should really be allowing ourselves to be pampered and occasionally sleep longer. Great post for #ThrowbackThursday

  6. Katie says:

    I really like your style of writing! I love this kind of post. Really, there are enough posts with ideas for how to stay healthy! We need more people like you!

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