Last week, I did something I’ve never done before and had never really planned to do in my lifetime. I posted a link to my (until now) secret blog on my personal Facebook page.
I’m not really sure what made me do it. Maybe it’s exhaustion messing with my brain. It just seemed like the right time. My blog has changed a lot since I first started writing. I’m a lot more reserved about what I post, so I’m not as worried about who reads it. Also, a lot of my closest friends and family have found out anyway – usually by accident – and so it seemed a bit pointless trying to hide it any longer.
Still, it was a very nerve-wracking moment when I finally clicked ‘post’. Facebook may call them “friends”, but my account is full of people I went to school with, people I used to work with and people I’ve met through hobbies and not seen in years. If they choose to read this blog, chances are they’ll know me much better now than they ever did back then.
So far, the reaction (where there has been one) has been pretty good. Some people were surprised, some were curious and others gave comments of support and reassurance. I also had more hits in two days than I’ve had in months. Maybe I should have shared earlier?
One thing is certain – all this talk about blogging has made me want to sit down and write again. When I last posted I was feeling rather negative about the whole thing. I’ve had some lovely comments from readers and fellow bloggers and it’s helped me to have a new perspective on why I write, and what I should write about.
We all know what you should be doing if you want to be a “successful” blog. There are hundreds of posts all over the internet with hints and tips to get more views, more shares, more likes, more followers, more advertising. You name it, someone’s written a post about it.
But if you actually try and follow those rules you can find it quite restricting. Maybe even a little soul-destroying. Of course, I’d love my blog to be popular and successful, but not if that means I have to be just like all the other successful, popular blogs out there. I want to be different. I want to be me!
With that in mind, I am making my own declaration of independence. I’m breaking free of the mould and doing things my way. (Don’t worry – I’m not going to start singing)
So, from now on in – this is what you can expect if you follow me and A Mess In A Dress.
- I am not going to plan my life around my blog. Instead of trying to think of interesting things to do which might be worth blogging about, I’m going to do whatever the hell I want and write about it if I think it’s worthy of sharing.
- No more looking around me for Instagram ready photographs. I spend far too much time fretting over what my next blog picture will be that I sometimes forget to live in the moment. From now on, I’ll take the pictures I want to take and then post those that are any good.
- I’m not going to worry about sticking to a schedule. It just doesn’t work for me. I will probably also have a plan in my head about upcoming blog posts, but if I miss one – oh, well. Maybe it will be three times a week, maybe just once, maybe every day! I’ll write what I want, when I want to.
Above all, I’m going to be me. If I’m having a good time, you’ll hear about it. If I’m hacked off – I’ll rant. I love reading blogs of all kinds and I would never try and discredit what those bloggers do. If you’re doing this for a living then good on you. But I won’t be imitating you. I’ll be here, in my little slice of the internet, doing exactly as I always have. And I’ll be enjoying myself just fine.
Maybe I’ll never give up my day job. Maybe I’ll never be paid to write. But that’s ok. I’d rather have two people who read my blog because they love hearing about me, than 2000 who love a fake, watered down version of myself.
So, thank you for reading whether you’re a regular visitor or a new addition. I hope I see you around here again soon.